Quora Answer: What Should a Single Muslim Man Do, if He Has Fallen in Love with His Married Christian Colleague?

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ 

The following is my answer to a Quora question: “I am a single Muslim man, and have fallen in love with my married Christian co-worker.  What should I do?” 

You should stop lusting after somebody’s wife, and behave yourself.  When Qur’an Tells us to lower our gaze, It never mentioned stopping at the boobs.  We are not animals, slaves to our desires.  We are meant to aspire to be better than the angels.  If you cannot control yourself, then you should consider finding another job, and keeping your distance.  These feelings are ephemeral, with no reality.  After some time, it will fade.  There are no shortage of women in the world.



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