Identifying & Addressing Personal Flaws
بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ Imam Abu al-Faraj ‘Abd ar-Rahman ibn ‘Ali ibn al-Jawzy (r.a.) wrote, in Thib ar-Ruhani , that the self is loved and the flaws of the beloved might not be apparent to the lover. However, some people are so resolute in their struggle against themselves that they consider their selves as their enemy in opposing it, and so they are able to see its flaws. Qadhi Iyas ibn Mu’awiyah ibn Qurrah al-Muzani ( r.a. ) said, “He who does not know his own demerits is a fool!” He was asked, “So what are yours?” He answered, “Excessive talking.” However this is very rare, because people usually hide their own flaws, but we do not mean that a person does not know of his flaws, for a person of sound mind recognises his flaws, we rather mean the concealed flaws. For they are like internal diseases that a doctor does not know of, and so cannot prescribe a medicine for, because they do not have symptoms. Also, a person’s...