Never Marry Off New Converts

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيم 

One of the worst things Muslim communities can ever do to people who have just converted to Islam, especially women, is to get them married off.  That is a recipe for neglect, abuse, alienation, oppression and cultural effacement.  It is, perhaps, the highest form of cruelty for most of them.  People who are adjusting to a new faith and struggling to rebuild their social network will likely not cope well with the challenges of marriage across cultural and even national boundaries.



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