Wednesday, 8 September 2010
Chivalric Qualities of Our Prophet (s.a.w.)
بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ
This was taken from an article by Ustadzah Fakhrunnisa.
Habib Muhammad as-Saqqaf (q.s.) said, “The best of you are those best to their women.”
A man may think that futuwwat, chivalry, is to be strict and serious- but we see what this means in the life of the Prophet (s.a.w.), and his dealings with his family; “The best of you are those who are best to their women, and I am best to my women.” Today when we speak of romance, and love- we find that the Prophet (s.a.w.) was the best in these things. The Prophet (s.a.w.), when he sacrificed an animal, would send a portion to Khadijah’s (r.a.) friends. Who, today, thinks of his wife’s friends? The Prophet (s.a.w.) was a member of the household; he used to sweep the house, and clean the bathroom. A man today would think this would diminish his masculinity.
A woman leads her husband to her happiness. The Prophet (s.a.w.) was gentle with his wives and would beautify himself for them. His whole life was like this. It was not limited to a few incidents. On the day of Hudaybiyyah, he took counsel from Umm Salama (r.a.). And it is recorded in the sirah that he took counsel from his wives. The Prophet (s.a.w.) did not travel but he took one of his wives with him. He would draw lots between them. During the last Pilgrimage, he took all of them with him. He did not think that a woman was a burden to him.
Once, his wife, Swafiyyah (r.a.), wanted to mount a camel, so the Prophet (s.a.w.) bent over, and let her put her foot on his shoulder so that she could mount up. This would be like someone opening the door of a car for a woman. He did such regularly, seeing these as acts of ihsan. Statistics say that 20-50% of women suffer domestic physical violence at the hand of men. The Prophet (s.a.w.) never hit a woman in his entire life. The one who hits women diminishes his futuwwat. Whoever wants to follow and have a portion of the futuwwat of the Prophet (s.a.w.) must be gentle, merciful and receives his family with a smile.
One of his advice was, “Be good to your women.” and he said the best of us are best to our family. This was the advice of the master of all men. Whoever wants to be close to the Prophet (s.a.w.) has to be good to his womenfolk, gentle, patient and merciful, fulfill her rights and enjoy her company. This brings us closer to him and helps us to meet him at the basin on the Day of Judgement, insha’Allah.